Childhood neglect is often an overlooked form of trauma, but its effects can linger well into adulthood, especially for men. The emotional wounds caused by neglect—whether physical, emotional, or psychological—can shape how men view themselves, their relationships, and the world around them. While many focus on more overt forms of abuse, neglect leaves a hidden mark, contributing to struggles with intimacy, self-worth, and emotional expression.

In this post, we’ll explore how childhood neglect impacts grown men, influencing everything from their mental health to their capacity for vulnerability. By recognizing the signs and understanding the long-term effects, we can begin the journey toward healing and breaking the cycle of shame that so many men carry.

Navigating the Waters of Faith Deconstruction: Resources for the Journey

Deconstructing your faith can feel a lot like dismantling a house you’ve lived in your entire life. Each brick you remove exposes new questions, new fears, and sometimes, new freedom. It can be disorienting to realize that what once felt stable is now a collection of shifting beliefs. But you’re not alone. Many have embarked on this journey, and while the path is uniquely yours, there are resources that can help guide and support you through the process.

Whether you’re taking apart beliefs handed down from your family or exploring the ways religious systems have affected you, having the right resources can make a world of difference. Books like “Faith After Doubt” by Brian McLaren or “Leaving the Fold” by Marlene Winell offer perspectives that honor both the pain and the hope in this journey. Podcasts like “The Liturgists” or “You Have Permission” provide a sense of community, reminding you that it’s okay to ask questions and sit in the ambiguity for a while.

This post will share some of the most helpful resources I’ve come across, from books and podcasts to online communities. The goal isn’t to give you answers but to help you feel less alone in the questioning and to find your way to a more authentic relationship with your beliefs—whatever they may be.

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Which path will you choose?

Losing your religion can feel like you've lost the very ground beneath your feet!

Do people choose to join a cult? There is more to the story than simply being a choice.

Controlling the thoughts of others has a long lasting impact. Cults tend to focus on several specific types of thought control. What are they? Click to find out!

Aren’t there obvious signs that would tell us a group is a cult? Read on to discover the telltale signs!

How has your religious experience impacted you? Take the free quiz to see whether you’ve been impacted by religious trauma.

Cults feature control in four key areas. Read on to see if you identify any of these in the groups you belong to.

We might think religious trauma only happens to certain types of people. Research shows certain demographics experience religious trauma at higher levels than others.

What role does religious trauma play in deconstruction?

What does religious trauma look like within our bodies, minds, emotions, and spirit? How do I recover?

Understanding the impact religious trauma has and the path to freedom.

Where does true strength lie? You’ll be surprised to find out!

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How has shame been motivating you? Or could that be guilt?